For some reason, about 5 years ago I started doing this to my wife while I was completely asleep. She’d be irritated with me later for “starting and then stopping” and I’d have to explain that I legit have no memory of doing that and was asleep the entire time

I had experienced this. Maybe happened 4-5x ever.. woke up in middle of sex. Worst part was my SO kept saying it was the best.. my awoke self apparently cant replicate it!

Ex in college had this. She’d initiate by backing into me and playfully moaning. After the second time I asked her about it, and she said she didn’t remember anything and woke up while we were having sex. I was a little freaked but she said she’d known about it since she was younger and would masturbate in her sleep.

She was fine with having sex when she was like that but it was too uncomfortable for me - Id just ignore her until she fell back asleep. Was funny too cause if I asked her if she was awake she would make noises in the affirmative but never speak actual words.

My partner has it. Soon after we moved in together, twice he woke me up at nights and initiated sex. The third time he woke me up I told him to go back to sleep, as I was too tired and he went back to sleep no problem. The next day I apologized for rejecting him and only then found out he didn't even remember it. During previous two times he would wake up whenwe were already having sex and he thought I initiated it while he was asleep. It doesn't happen as often nowadays, but it's always weird making out with him knowing that he's asleep. Even when I ask him if he's awake he answers me positively while being asleep apparently. He did sleepwalk a bit when he was a teenager, maybe it's connected somehow.

My ex gf. She would get all over me and then she'd suddenly take a bunch of panicked breaths and say "where am I?!" like she was so confused. Took us a couple of times to figure out it was the meds her doctor prescribed for her anxiety. From that point on I would just leave the bedroom, come back with a fresh glass of water and as soon a she took the first sip her eyes would flutter and her consciousness returned. She didn't take those very long. She started taking anti nausea meds, like for air/car sickness and that seemed to fix her anxiety without "sleep walking" as we politely called it.

Once dated a girl who had this from using Ambien, absolutely bonkers. Once minute you think you're just doing the frisky dingo at night and then she just starts muttering all this weird shit and you're like "Oh, Oh I'm not the Ice cream man, and I'm not going to go get my labrador for you to play fetch with."

I actually have this. My girl tells me that I start playing with her, she gets in the mood and next thing you know I’m snoring. I legit do not remember any of it.

Once long ago I woke up during sex with my wife. My first conscious thought was “why is this taking so long.” Only later did I realize it was because we’d already had sex before falling asleep.

I actually have sexsomnia and it's really shitty, because it's so unpredictable. It almost never happens, but it could always happen.

Whenever I'm in a new relationship I always need to have this super awkward conversation with the girl I'm dating, and though most are understanding and wake me up/let me sleep in the couch, it's always so fucked and I always feel like a scumbag.

Not to mention that I can never be 100% comfortable when sharing a room with friends.

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My ex was like this, she would just dream about sex with me and initiate. She said she consented and she didn't mind as long as I didn't get her pregnant. It was weird waking up to her groping me or shoving her tongue down my throat, but weirder when we both woke up mid coitus without a clue how we had started.

Ugh, this shit is so embarrassing. I don't think I have this to a major degree, but I have walked around and my sleep and I had my ex tell me I kept begging her to "fuck me in the ass". She could tell something was up and thought it was funny, but I just felt so embarrassed. I fall asleep on couches and stuff a lot and take naps around the house and I am always paranoid I am going to say something absolutely heinous that I don't mean and someone is going to hear me.

When I met my now-ex-girlfriend, she let me know that she was in the process of divorcing her husband because he was in jail pending trial for sexually assaulting her daughter over a period of several years. His defense was that he was a sleepwalker and had sexsomnia. My girlfriend never experienced any sexsomnia from him, even though they shared a bed together.

He got 40 years in state prison. He was mid 40s when the sentence was handed down.

Ambien has entered the chat. Used to be on it, it makes you mad horny and barely could remember wtf happened in the morning.

I suffer from a very sexy sleep disorder. What do I call it, Kif?

My husband has this. We had no idea what it was called till a couple years ago. He started sleeping with a cpap machine and it’s slowed down a lot. I would wake up from the craziest dreams because we’d both be sleeping when he’d touch me. Now I usually wake up with him clutching a boob like he thinks they’re going to run away from him. I call them his security blankets lol.

Ahhhhh… yes. Sleep Fapnea. I’m very familiar.

“Sexsomnia can occur alongside other parasomnias, including sleepwalking and sleep talking. It appears to be more common in men than in women, possibly up to three times more common. Masturbation is the most common behavior in women with sexsomnia.

In addition to the sexual behaviors, signs that someone is acting under the influence of a sexual parasomnia include:

-Unresponsiveness or minimal responsiveness to conversation or the environment -Unusual sexual responses or aggression Inability to be woken, or difficulty being woken -No memory of their sexual behaviors once awake”

~excerpt from the article

I informed my wife (and previous partners) of my sex somnia (no official diagnosis) before we started sleeping in the same bed together. I've experienced sex somnia since at least puberty.

I also sleep walk/sleep talk on occasion. My wife has a list of the funniest things I've said while asleep.

My favorite is "Alright, I found Carmen SanDiego, now where is that bastard Waldo?"

My wife's favorite is "I can sell you a car, or I can have sex with you. Either way you're getting fucked."

My 1st wife liked it. It was triggered whenever I had dairy (I'm allergic). Once I stopped drinking milk, well apparently, I'm a better lover when I was asleep than when I was awake. 😵

I have this.

While it’s hard to find a doctor that actually wants to try to do something about it or even believe me, I do that this disorder but learned to live with it.

Most of the time, I don’t remember and my SO learned to deal with it by just asking if I remember last night.

Sometimes I wake in the middle of it all balls deep. Which I then realize what’s going on and I turn to fall asleep as my partner realizes what’s going on.

Best way to deal with it is to talk about it openly. Mine gets triggered from stress I guess. Never had a doctor who actually wanted to talk or do anything about it, so you learn to live with it.

I have this. It always happened with my girlfriend and she was ok with me jumping on top of her in the middle of the night for some unexpected intercourse, but still looks too close to rape and I feel so bad about it.

Once I woke up to me standing in the bed with the hardest boner I can recall and jerking off like a bonobo. That was weird, too.

Actually I've done that. Wife said I was wild, throwing her around and just doing what I wanted. She loved it! I just wish I'd of been there.

Had a buddy fall asleep on a guard shift. He started jerking off in his sleep on the floor. I woke him up and told him he was doing it and he didn't believe me. Come to think of it he kind of stopped being my friend after that.

Reading through all these comments has made me reliaze I'm not alone in this :( I was scared to talk about it for years, it's one of the many horrible things I experience with my parasomnia sleep condition I've had since I was a toddler and it's terrifying trying to bring it up to potential partners. Probably why I'm still single :(

Show of hands, who found out about this from House?

I won’t sleep with anyone because I do this. I grope and and try to initiate sex in my sleep and my wife don’t believe me the next morning when I’m like “What?? I didn’t do that”

Had this happen to me once with a woman I was seeing. Woke up in the middle of the night with her rubbing herself up against me while moaning. She was dripping wet and trying to maneuver myself into her. We had a great sex session and she had an extremely intense orgasm and then was immediately in a deep sleep. Had no idea what happened until the next morning.

Me: “Wow that was a wonderful surprise last night!” Her: “Huh?” Me: “…..random middle of the night sex” Her: “Ohhh yeah I should’ve warned you about that”

Senior year I find a girl on tinder, we hang out and hit it off. I could tell she was anxious like me. She invited me over and we kind of encourage each other to over drink as we’re both nervous and this is the first time I am having sex at college. I had had sex one other time in high school. I brought condoms, I put one on and we do the deed. I barley last a 1 minute, but it was great and I’m on cloud nine. She asks me to sleep over. In the middle of the night I wake up groggy and don’t realize what’s going on and am out of it. I finally come to and realize I am having sex with this girl again but it’s too late and I finish inside her. Of course sleeping sexsomnia me didn’t wear a condom. I dropped off plan b the next day. She said she was never able to swallow pills. I begged her to figure out a way. Idk and it doesn’t really matter if she did or not. But she got pregnant. We decided to get an abortion but the whole experience was traumatizing for the both of us. Her religious family got involved. My family was disappointed in me. I don’t talk to her for 6 year. I reach out and we plan a night to call each other. We both cried for an hour on the phone together. Neither of us had someone to talk about the situation with after all these years. We never told our closest friends or partners. But we felt comfortable talking to each other about it as we both went through it and we wouldn’t judge each other. It was nice. But I felt extremely sad and guilty learning how she’s still affected by it. The experience is still haunting us in different ways to this day. I need to see a therapist.

This is how my wife and I had our second pregnancy. It’s scary when both do this.

Friend of mine ive had fun consensual sex with in the past has this, we were sleeping in the same bed cuddling and we fell asleep i was woken up to some great sex and after we finished i got up to pee and thats what woke her up and she started sobbing and I was like wtf just happened whats wrong and she explained and i felt so shitty. She told me it started happening a few years prior and a whole lot of stuff came out about it. There was a lot of consoling on both sides, we did end up having sex in the morning on purpose and are still great friends. I don't sleep at her place anymore and there is a locked door between us if we do sleep in the same place now.

I have this. It can be a REAL problem. I have woken up mid bang...I have also woken up to the sound of my ex begging me to not put it in her butt...that was not fun. I was horrified :(

My husband and I both do this.

It's less than 1/50th as hot as you probably think.

I used to have it, no idea what happened to stop it though. I couldn't have anyone sleep in the same bed with me without giving them the "I might start trying to have sex with you while we're sleeping. I'm not trying to be creepy, it's honestly a condition, and I will not remember anything that happens. If you shake me hard though, I'll wake right up and stop..." knowing that I sounded like a complete rapist which was horribly embarrassing for me to say and likely terrifying for anyone to accept. I actually slept on the couch so many nights when first starting relationships through my late teens and twenties until any SOs became willing partners who were cool with just randomly being woke up to having sex... which thankfully there are more people who are cool with that once they're comfortable in a relationship than anyone would ever imagine to the point of it being a prelevant kink, btw.

Thankfully though, I didn't have a real girlfriend until I was like 17 at the dawn of the internet. Is never slept next to anyone else before then. It just happened one night, and I only know because the next morning she was like "what happened last night? We had sex, but it didn't seem like you were actually there..." I just had to say that I didn't know. I was super confused though thinking she was the one who had a vivid dream or something while also being utterly horrified at myself. I was able to research it online that morning which at least let me explain it for 15 years after.

The weirdest thing though is I was always told that it was some of the best sex people ever had, but I would also just completely stop dead, lay down, and go back to sleep out of nowhere like nothing had happened.

I am so freaking glad it hasn't happened in almost ten years though. There are stories of people doing very complicated things while being asleep, even driving and not remembering it in the morning. I completely believe all of that is possible with the stores I've been told about myself.

I was in bed with a girl I was dating when she suddenly started blowing me. I was confused but allowed it. She woke up halfway into it and asked what was going on. I told her that she was blowing me in her sleep. To which she replied, "Oh, well, I guess I'd better finish the job." And she did. Only time that's ever happened.